you were sitting near a group of men bragging about how they were
cheating on their wives, what would you do about it? Ignore the
conversation? Get up and move? Turn around and tell them what a bunch
of pigs they are? Or would you surreptitiously snap
a photo of one of the men and post the image on Facebook,
along with a request to share and ultimately shame him for his
latter scenario is exactly what happened last week when a
Pennsylvania mom posted a now-viral "Is
this your husband?" photo of a man on a train. She asked
people to repost the damning status, and she certainly got her wish:
it's been shared more than 183,000 times. The question is, did
she do the right thing?
my opinion, the answer is a resounding OH Heck NO.
Wednesday Steph Strayer posted a photo on her Facebook page along
with the following text:
this is your husband, I have endured a 2 hour train ride from
Philadelphia listening to this loser and his friends brag about their
multiple affairs and how their wives are too stupid to catch on. Oh
image has since gone viral, although it's not known if the man has
been identified yet. There's a LOT that isn't known about this whole
story, actually, which is why it makes me so uncomfortable.
mean, let's imagine the various scenarios in which this
whole thing could be a giant steaming pile of social media bullcrap:
the guy could have been engaged in some obnoxious but ultimately
harmless bragging with his buddies. The poster could have dreamed
this up as a hoax. The guy could be in on the joke. The guy could be
completely innocent of any wrongdoing and now his photo is plastered
all over the Internet because the poster has a vendetta against him.
maybe he really is a scumbag cheater, in which case his wife gets the
humiliating experience of finding out when 50 of her acquaintances
forward the photo to her? All of these possibilities suck. They suck
also sucks is the idea that we
now live in an age where our behavior can be so easily dissected and
via social media. It's one thing when someone purposefully shares
something about themselves on social media and gets unwanted backlash
as a result, it's something else entirely when a guy having a private
conversation -- however unpleasant that conversation might have been
to nearby listeners -- is subjected to becoming a trending news
topic, thanks to someone's cellphone camera.
sure there are plenty of folks who are applauding this woman's
decision, but it just gives me the creeps. It's
invasive, and without any context, it's just dangerous.
Imagine if she'd written that she overheard him talking about being a
pedophile, for instance. Do we really want vigilante justice dished
out via unverified Facebook claims? Because that's one hell of a
slippery slope, if you ask me.
do you think about this Facebook post? Do you support her decision to
share the image?