Six Phrases You’ll Hear in the Most Successful Relationships

Even people in healthy relationships fight sometimes. But it’s HOW you fight that makes a difference.

A pair of psychologists who’ve been married 35 years came up with a list of the phrases people in good relationships tend to use a lot. They grouped them into six different categories . . .

1. “I feel” statements. You don’t have to start with those exact words. It’s just about expressing emotions. Things like, “I’m getting scared” . . . “That hurt my feelings” . . . or “I feel like you don’t understand me right now.”

2. “I need to calm down.” It’s about taking a breath. Other examples include, “This is important to me, please listen” . . . and “Can I have a hug?”

3. Stop actions. It’s similar to the last one. Phrases like, “Let’s start again” . . . “Can we take a break and talk about something else?” . . . and “I might be wrong.”

4. Getting to “yes.” Phrases that validate the other person and help you meet halfway. Things like, “I agree with part of what you’re saying” . . . “I see where you’re coming from” . . . and, “I think your point of view makes sense.”

5. Expressing your appreciation. Lines like, “I understand” . . . “Thank you for saying that” . . . and “I love you.”

6. “I’m sorry.” Or even just admitting you’re not perfect. Phrases like, “I was being extreme” . . . “I can see my part in all this” . . . and “Sorry, let me try again.”

(CNBC)
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